When parents in Wisconsin get a divorce, their children are affected as well. As those children move into the teen years, parents may face a new set of challenges. It is important to avoid some common errors when co-parenting teens, such as easing off on communication with one another on the assumption that their teen will fill in the gaps. This can mean one parent does not realize that there are certain issues on which the teen may need guidance.
The general consensus in the family law world is that continuing to spend time with both their parents after a divorce is what's best for children. As such, co-parenting is often highly encouraged when figuring out a parenting agreement. However, this might not always be the best idea. Wisconsin residents might like to know about instances when co-parenting might not work.
Once a marriage is over, it's time for Wisconsin couples with children to shift their focus to making co-parenting work. Such arrangements may be more effective if divorced parents remember to put their children's best interests front and center. Even in instances where one parent views his or her ex as untrustworthy, incompetent or unreasonable, results tend to be better if both parties make an effort to politely interact and let children naturally discover parental flaws.
If you're going through a divorce and have young children, the courts will decide both legal custody and physical placement. People often refer to both by the term "custody," but there are actually two different legal decisions here. Legal custody determines who makes major decisions for children, while physical placement determines how parents share time with their children. It's possible the children will spend 50 percent of their time with you, but for your ex to have authority to make major decisions for them.
Co-parenting after a divorce is never easy, especially if you have a strained relationship with your ex-spouse. During a split, concerns and stressors can start to arise, be it with regards to your ex's parenting abilities, child support or finances, or the emotional strain of conflict or resentment. While no one enters a marriage or has children with the intention of getting divorced - engaging in amicable, communicative co-parenting can not only reduce some of these stressors, but also help your children establish more secure, stable, and healthy relationships with both parents.
Developing a parenting plan is a necessary, sometimes challenging task. Your parenting plan will outline how you and your co-parent will handle potential parenting issues, as well as support the upbringing of your child(ren) following divorce. By referencing what actions to take/follow in managing different parent-to-parent and parent-to-child situations, your plan will ultimately make raising kids across separate residences easier.
In the first part of this article, we discussed the initial challenges of co-parenting; specifically, communicating the context of the divorce to your children. Because a high-conflict divorce can have negative impacts on a child, including delayed adjustment, strained parent-child relationships, anxiety, and negative coping strategies such as substance abuse, it is crucial for parents to combat these outcomes with long-term collaborative strategies made in the best interest of their children.