Divorce is rarely easy. However, when a couple shares a complex portfolio of valuable assets, things can get complicated fast. Whether everyone involved is up front about their finances or some things are hidden away, special care must be taken to ensure a fair result.
Protecting your assets in a community property state
They say that a large number of people across the country, including many here in Wisconsin, either marry later in life or remarry. In many cases, this means that each party could already have significant assets once the wedding day arrives.
If you empathize with this position, then you understand the need to protect those assets. Perhaps you didn’t think you would need a prenuptial agreement. After all, you didn’t think your relationship would end in divorce, but now that you face that process, you could find yourself anxious about what you will be left with when the deed is done.
Exploring prenuptial agreements
Many people in Wisconsin and elsewhere in the nation believe prenuptial agreements are for wealthy individuals or celebrities with significant assets to protect. While this is largely true, documents of this nature can be just as beneficial for individuals of average means who are looking to safeguard certain assets before tying the knot.
A well-prepared prenup is designed to reduce the expenses often associated with the end of a marriage. Predetermining asset division prior to exchanging "I dos" could also minimize emotion-fueled battles, which sometimes get fairly contentious and costly if divorcing spouses choose to dig their heels in. A prenup can also provide an incentive for soon-to-be-spouses to be upfront about their existing assets and debts prior to marriage. This step may reduce arguments should a marriage end.
How job loss can affect the divorce process
The process of untying the knot can suddenly become even more stressful for couples if one spouse loses his or her job. When this happens, a court often makes an attempt to develop a better understanding of the circumstances involved before making any rulings regarding divorce-related issues such as spousal or child support.
The court will likely address job loss during a divorce based on why a spouse is no longer working. If a higher-earning spouse loses their job due to company-wide layoffs, for instance, a judge is more likely to make appropriate income adjustments. But if a spouse was fired because of their actions, the court will likely expect them to still meet their divorce-related financial obligations. However, if an unemployed spouse is honestly unable to provide support until they regain employment, this fact may be addressed in the divorce agreement.
Divorce and retirement savings
Married couples in Wisconsin who get a divorce are likely to find that the process can be draining emotionally. They should also be prepared for how it will affect them financially. When it comes to finances, the biggest impact may be on retirement savings. This may be an issue if one party did not work during the marriage, and the other party's retirement was meant for both spouses.
Divorcing couples may want to first consider engaging in negotiations regarding retirement savings. If both parties have retirement savings that are almost equal, a simple solution may be to leave retirement savings as they are, retaining their personal accounts. However, if one party has retirement savings that are significantly more than the other party’s, negotiation may be more difficult. In this situation, the party with fewer retirement assets may try to negotiate for a share of the other party's savings.
Tips for coparenting in the teen years
When parents in Wisconsin get a divorce, their children are affected as well. As those children move into the teen years, parents may face a new set of challenges. It is important to avoid some common errors when co-parenting teens, such as easing off on communication with one another on the assumption that their teen will fill in the gaps. This can mean one parent does not realize that there are certain issues on which the teen may need guidance.
Parents might also start to default to relying on the teen to carry any important information between them. This can put a lot of power in the teen's hands and can be unreliable. As teens become more independent and are able to drive themselves places, they may take advantage of parents' ignorance if parents stop coordinating schedules with one another regularly. Parents should also continue making an effort to get to know their teen's friends instead of assuming the other parent does.
Co-parenting is not always the right answer
The general consensus in the family law world is that continuing to spend time with both their parents after a divorce is what's best for children. As such, co-parenting is often highly encouraged when figuring out a parenting agreement. However, this might not always be the best idea. Wisconsin residents might like to know about instances when co-parenting might not work.
The biggest issues preventing co-parenting often involve situations where sharing custody would not be safe for a parent or child. This may occur when a parent has a history of violence, or ex-spouses have restraining orders against one another. One parent may be emotionally or physically abusive or might have abandoned or neglected a child in the past.
Hidden assets in marriage are more common than you think
If you’ve been married for any length of time, you are well aware that finances are one of the biggest sources of conflict in any relationship. Each of us relates to money in a different way. And if that relationship to money is vastly different than our spouse’s, it can be highly problematic.
For some, the imperfect solution is just to avoid talking about money, or to keep secrets from one another. In fact, hiding assets in a relationship is surprisingly common. According to a recent poll of U.S. adults married to or cohabitating with a partner, 19 percent of survey respondents admitted to hiding a credit, checking or savings account from their significant other. This means nearly one in five people have a secret source of funds that they don’t want their partner to know about.
Why divorcing couples should consider insurance coverage
Divorce in Wisconsin often takes a heavy toll on families. It causes different kinds of stress, and there can be so many details to notice that some things go overlooked. Many soon-to-be exes forget to consider how the family insurance coverage will look after the divorce. Typically, the two most important types of insurance coverage in a divorce are life insurance and health insurance.
Life insurance may be especially important if one of the spouses expects to receive spousal support. Most of the time, spousal support is terminated upon the death of the paying spouse. The stream of support payments may be continued by taking out a life insurance policy on the payor spouse. In some cases, life insurance is made mandatory by the terms of the divorce settlement. The recipient ex should own the policy and be responsible for paying the premiums so that they are in control.
How to divorce a narcissist successfully
Perhaps you fell for his or her attractive charm and lime-light personality. Sometimes, it is not always obvious when you are in the thick of a relationship with someone that they are really a narcissist at heart. Narcissists have a clever way of making sure people like them, until you realize the true tank they’re interested in keeping filled is their own inflated ego and delusional self-aggrandizing beliefs.
In fact, divorcing a narcissist may be harder than being married to one. The divorce process is a direct assault on their well-coifed persona. Underneath the illusion of being in love with themselves, narcissists are quite fragile and weak inside. Therefore, divorce retaliation can feel like a nightmare to the other person in the relationship.
