When you got married, you undoubtedly expected your relationship would last a lifetime. Many Wisconsin spouses have had similar intentions when they vow to support the loves of their lives “for better or for worse.” In a perfect world, all your hopes and dreams would come true, and as a couple, you and your partner would stand the test of time and overcome any obstacles that arise in your marriage.
It’s not a perfect world. In reality, you might have already been married 10 years or more before you realized that the facts about your relationship are far different than what you hoped it would be. There are many issues that can cause serious marriage problems. It’s helpful to talk to someone who can relate to what you’re going through. In fact, building a strong support network from the start is especially critical if you later determine that your relationship is no longer sustainable.
Do these issues apply to your situation?
No two marriages are the same; however, you may find that you understand why certain issues have prompted someone you know to file for divorce because you might be experiencing similar problems in your own marriage. The following list shows reasons many Wisconsin spouses cite as deciding factors toward filing a divorce petition:
- Substance abuse problems can wreak havoc in your life. If your spouse is addicted to alcohol or drugs, it’s understandable that these problems have taken a toll on your marriage.
- Other types of addiction, such as pornography or gambling, can also cause a marital relationship to crumble.
- Has your spouse cheated on you? Infidelity is one of the most common reasons people file for divorce.
- Many divorces occur because one spouse feels that the other is a control freak, trying micromanage every aspect of his or her life.
- Sadly, domestic violence is also a prevalent issue in many households. There is no excuse for physical violence in marriage and spouses who are victims of such violence are wise to seek immediate safety, shelter and support.
To say that being married to a narcissist is challenging is a grave understatement. In fact, many spouses say that such relationships caused them to question their own sanity before they ultimately made the decision to divorce. While it’s true that some couples are able to seek support through licensed counseling or faith ministries in their communities to overcome their marital problems and keep their relationships intact, others decide they’d rather sever their ties than remain in unhappy marriages.
Don’t hesitate to ask for help
Especially if you have children, if there’s physical violence in your home, it is imperative to seek immediate assistance to keep you and your kids safe. If you are not in danger because of domestic violence but relate to some of the other issues mentioned earlier, you may still find it helpful to reach out for encouragement and support.
Perhaps you have a friend or family member who has been through similar experiences. He or she may have sage advice to offer. It’s also helpful to talk to those who are well-versed in divorce laws in this state, in case that is the ultimate route you decide to take.